How To Ask A Girl To Hangout

By Kwabena Okyire Appianing •  Updated: 03/09/22 •  7 min read

You may never know the outcome of asking someone to hangout with you. This makes it a very scary thing.  Asking someone to hangout is seen as a step towards a relationship especially if you are interested in the person both of you have been texting for some time. 

The truth is, it doesn’t have to be scary. That is why we’ve put this article together.  There are easy ways to approach this and hopefully help you score a “hang out” date. 

Let’s get started !

  1. Have an Idea

It’s important that you have an Idea of how to go about things. Remember it’s a girl we are talking about here and as such, you do  it want this have minutes of silence in between you asking her or waiting for minutes for her answer.  

You have to be very creative in your approach.  You can ask basic questions about her hobbies, family, work or even ask her questions like “If you eat dinner in a restaurant, which restaurant would it be? 

This will not only let you know her better, it will also create a rapport between  the two of you and pave a way for you to finally ask her to  hangout.   

2. This isn’t a big deal

You’re here reading this article because asking a girl to hangout is a big deal for you else,  You won’t be reading this. Remember,  you’re not asking her to marry you, it’s a simple hang out request. 

Don’t make a big deal out of nothing. Take the first step first and let go of any fear. 

3. Ask her out when she’s in a positive mood

You don’t want to ask a girl to hangout when she is in a terrible mood. In such a case, there will be one obvious answer from  her. She will likely reject your request.  

If you want her to agree to hang out,  you should make sure you’re asking her arms  when she’s in a good mood and especially when both of you are having a great conversation.

For example you want to hang out and ask her to hang out at a time when she just finished laughing at a joke you cracked or at your funny story.  Women work a lot with their emotions so you must consider her emotions if you want a positive outcome,

4. Keep the date idea simple

When it comes to first dates, women mostly prefer something very simple. Make sure that when discussing the date idea with her, you bring up simple ones. You may want to take her on a fantastic date that’s filled with incredible things but don’t.  Keep it very simple. 

At this point, you want her to have the assurance that you want to get to own her more and as such, you should consider date ideas that will encourage you two to get to know each other better. 

For example, you can go to the beach, take a walk or just grab an ice cream and head over to the park. The catch is to keep it very simple.  

6.  Choose a place that’s convenient and open

Most guys make a mistake when it comes to choosing a place to hang out with a girl, especially for the first time. A girl will easily assume all you want to do is to hook up with her once you ask her to come over to watch a movie. 

It’s important  to note that you asked her out and as such, it’s your responsibility to take her out and for her to come over to your house.  To make her feel respected and comfortable,  you should pick a public place and also make sure it’s convenient for her. 

9. If she says no, stop

No one knows what the possible outcome will  be when you ask her out, so you have to consider that even before asking her to hangout.  

It is very important to note that when you ask out once and she says no, you can try for another time but once she says no after two asks, then you have to stop. 

Once she says no for the second time, you should realise there may be reasons for her decision. She could be very busy, not interested in you or probably wants more time to get to know you more before deciding to hangout with you.

Read: What Do Girls Look For In A Guy?

9. Ease up with the seriousness

You don’t have too serious when it comes to asking a girl to hangout. You’re not asking her to marry you, it’s just a simple hang out. Don’t go asking her in old English “Will thy lady accompany you to the movie?” Or be very formal in the way you approach and ask her out. 

You should note that doing such can easily freak her out and eventually end the opportunity for you to hang out with her. 

10.  Communicate with her

This is a very important thing to do even if you’ve asked her out already.  Keep the communication going.  Keep texting her and talk to her often.  

This creates a relaxed atmosphere for you two and most importantly creates a relationship. Therefore, it won’t be dead silence when you finally hangout; rather,  there will be so much to talk about and keep the conversation going. 

11. Be Honest with Yourself

It’s important to note that you can’t be honest with a girl if you are not honest with yourself in the first place.

 That is, before you go ahead to ask her to hangout, you have to first be honest with yourself.  Ask yourself exactly what your feelings are towards her, could it be an infatuation? Or is it just a casual interest? 

When you are this honest with yourself, the entire process of asking her to hangout with you becomes much easier. You should note that you run the risk of missing out on a great relationship if you are not honest about your intentions from the beginning.  

12. Have a Plan

You should consider having a plan. You don’t want to approach her and ask her directly, “Do you want to hang out sometime?  Obviously, you will get an answer from her but there is also a good chance the answer may not be favorable to you. 

This is why you need a plan. You should consider having an option or two to present to her. It’s important that you include the times you will be available. This is very important because when you have a time and date, it gives her enough room to respond on time. 

13. There’s no right time

It’s important to note that there is no right time to ask her to hangout with you. Whether you ask her in two weeks time or even today,  it doesn’t matter. 

You shouldn’t let figuring out the right time to ask her out become an obstacle to asking her to hangout.  If you allow this to happen,  you  run the risk of someone else asking her out and eventually losing your opportunity.  

You don’t have to let anything hold you back , it’s time to man up and take the chance. Believe in yourself. 

Read: Icebreaker Questions For Dating

Final Words

If you are interested in someone, the first step to take is to ask them to hangout. This will provide you with the opportunity to know them better and even like them more. It will also allow the person to know you and probably start liking you back. It may seem scary but it’s a step in the right direction. Come on now, gather some courage and ask them out!

Kwabena Okyire Appianing