Signs Your Boss Wants To Sleep With You

By Delphine •  Updated: 04/02/22 •  8 min read

Do you think your boss likes you more than a friend and actually wants to sleep with you?

This sounds like a common scenario,  right? It’s a common thing to hear ladies whose bosses are male complain about their boss flirting with them or asking them out. 

Office romance is very common in our world today. It’s a sensitive topic. It’s important to note that although most workplaces now allow workers to get involved romantically,  there are limits to what can be done in the office. 

Do you have that feeling that your boss wants to get down with you? But before you make such assumptions, you need to be very sure your boss is really making the moves to get down with you.  

We’ve put together a list of signs to help you determine whether your boss wants to sleep with you or not.

Let’s get into it. 

  1. You have a lot of private meetings:

And yet, you’re still not sure why you have them. Of course, an occasional meeting with your boss is normal, but if he asks you to a private meeting when really there’s no need, he’s into you.

Depending on how you feel about your boss, these private meetings can be uncomfortable and feel like you’re being cornered. Too many private meetings mean they want to see how they can go from professional into personal encounters.

  1. You get gifts:

 They may not be huge gifts, it could be a pen or a notebook, but the point is, they’re gifts. Unless it’s Christmas, your birthday, or another special occasion, it’s not normal for the people you work with to get you gifts, especially your boss. Now, if your boss tells you not to tell other people about the gift, it’s clear they’re into you. Kinda sleazy, in my opinion.

  1. They add you on social media:

 Now, some companies require you to show them your social media. However, you shouldn’t have to add your bosses to Facebook or Instagram.

You’re allowed to separate those aspects of your life. Suddenly, you see your boss asking you to be their friend on Facebook and now they follow you on Instagram. They want to see if you’re with anyone and if so, who.

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  1. Your boss flirts with you:

Now flirting is a huge sign of someone’s interest in you. The moment your boss starts flirting with you, then something’s coming up. Flirting is meant to build sexual tension between two people. It’s also one of the commonest ways to say to a woman, ‘I want you to be mine.’

Your boss flirts with you. Now, flirting is a huge sign of someone’s interest. Now, this doesn’t mean they’ll do anything. However, flirting is meant to build up sexual tension between two people. Yes, crack jokes at the office, but there’s a difference between regular jokes and flirtatious jokes.

  1.  They treat you differently:

Compared to all the other employees, they treat you differently. Of course, they treat you differently, they want to sleep with you. Maybe they promote you even though you’re relatively new to the job, or provide you with extras when you don’t actually deserve them. You can run with this for a while, but if the other employees see this, they aren’t going to be happy.

6. They get a little too close: 

Your boss wants to see what you’ve done, so they lean on your desk, staring at the screen. Now, this happens and it doesn’t mean it’s sexual. Usually this is a sign they want to be closer to you. They may touch you, graze your arm, or speak into your ear. The point is, these invade your personal space. If they enter your personal space, it’s a solid sign they want more.

  1.  You’re the funniest person to them:

 To your boss, you’re hilarious. You’re more than hilarious, you’re literally the funniest person on earth. Nothing you say won’t be laughed at, even if it’s a lame joke.

Laughter is a huge sign of physical attraction. I mean, unless the joke is truly funny, we rarely laugh with people we find unattractive.

  1. Your boss tells you about his personal life:

This can only mean one thing, he wants you to have an intimate relationship with you. If your boss talks about personal stuff to you, especially in the area of dating and sex, then it’s clear he wants to study your reaction and see how much you’re interested in him. He wants to bring you closer to him

  1.  Personal calls and emails:

Now, for some reason, your boss has your personal email and phone number. This part isn’t entirely unusual as many employers have their employee’s personal information. However, they rarely use it unless it’s an emergency. But, if your boss is quick to send personal emails and call you outside of work, unless it’s strictly work related *it probably isn’t*, they want to cross over into your personal life. Another very obvious sign. You’re home relaxing on a Sunday and your phone suddenly rings out and the caller turns out to be your boss. And he tells you he’s just calling to wish you a pleasant Sunday. And he begins to repeatedly make these calls. Be warned, he’s got something up his sleeves.

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  1. Your opinion matters:

 More than anyone else’s actually. They always come to you first for your opinion because they want to please you. It could be about work or even something more personal, like what shirt they should wear.

  1. You spend time outside the office together:

Okay, you could say it’s normal for a coworker to take you out for lunch. But once your boss begins to frequently take you outside the office for lunch or something, or generally wants to hang out with you outside of work time, it’s a clear sign he’s interested in something more than just work.

You spend time together outside of the office. Now, it’s normal for co-workers to grab lunch or a coffee together. It’s not as common for bosses to hang out with their employees outside of work time. If your boss enters into your personal time outside of the office, it’s clear they’re interested in something more than just work.

  1. Your boss tells you about their personal life:

Maybe your boss told you they left their partner or about a wild weekend at the bar. Either way, this is overstepping the working relationship you share. If your boss talks about their personal life to you, specifically in the area of dating and sex, well, this is a clear sign they’re gauging your reaction.

13. Overly friendly: 

It’s normal for bosses to wish their employees a good morning, but if your boss comes over to your desk to check on you throughout the day, it looks like you have an admirer. Again, if they come over to you a lot because you work on a specific project together, that’s different. But if they come over just to chat, well, come on, it’s quite clear

14. He suddenly begins to ask for private meetings with you:

When this starts to happen and you can’t seem to understand the rationale for the private meeting, then something is wrong. The man obviously wants to start getting really personal with you.

15. You get gifts:

They may not be huge gifts but they’re still gifts anyway because he’s not handing out the same thing to everyone in the office. When he gives you these gifts, he singles you out as the only one deserving it. And then he tells you not to tell anyone he’s just given you a gift. Beware, it could be a Greek gift, he may still ask you for something in return. 

16. Strong eye contact: 

Eye contact is another sign your boss wants to sleep with you. Yes, people look at each other when speaking to one another, but if your boss stares you down, well, it’s clear they want more. Prolonged eye contact is a huge alert and shows a desire to connect with you on a deeper level.

17. He treats you differently:

Once your boss begins to treat you differently from the way he treats other employees, then you can be sure something fishy is going on. If he gives you a little extra income or promotes you even though you’re fairly new in the organisation, you must shine your eyes, something else may follow soon.

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Now you are sure if your boss wants to sleep with you or is just being friendly. In the working world, office romance has become very common. Just make sure you have confirmed any assumptions before you take any step. Your boss may just be looking forward to sleeping with you or is genuinely looking for friendship.